Two for Tuesday: SE Cupp and Sarah Palin.

There is a myth that people who wear glasses are smart. Not so true, sometimes they can be myopic and dumb. Take in point Sarah Palin and SE Cupp. Both rattle my teeth. And both look weirdly similar.

David Bowie: Dance, Magic, Dance

David Bowie passed away. All the internet is a buzz about it. I was sadden to hear the news. I actually didn't believe it until too many people were confirming it on social media. When his people confirmed it as well, I felt myself tear up a bit. See I liked David Bowie but I especially loved him in the movie, cult classic, Labyrinth.

Labyrinth is the story of a teenage girl foolishly wishing away her brother to the Goblin King, Jareth. After she realizes her terrible mistake, she embarks on a journey to find her brother who is being held in the center of the Goblin King's formidable and ever changing labyrinth. Along the way she makes friends who help her and one who betrays her.

This movie was eye opening to me. The Goblin King was not a stereotypical heart throb. David Bowie, however, changed something in me as he did with many young girls and queer boys watching it. Yes, I know I can't mention the movie without mentioning the Goblin King's provocative costume that accentuated his manhood (this IS a sex blog) but beyond the obvious sexuality on display, Bowie brought something more to the role. When he proposed to Sarah at the end, you could feel the movie tapping into a primal aspect of fairy tales, the sexual awakening of the hero(ine).

Yet unlike many fairy tales and their incarnations, the movie was empowering for young girls (and queer boys). Of course Sarah made dumb choices, (giving her brother away the least of it--my sister and I always thought she was dumb to leave the Goblin Kingdom when she could have disposed of her suitor and become queen herself) but she was single minded and used wit, skill, and even strength to overcome obstacles.

I didn't have a good childhood. It was Dickensian at best. But the moments when I could be a child, could use my imagination to transport me to somewhere beyond a crummy, dilapidated trailer park in rural N.C., are cherished memories. Many of these memories involve playing with my younger sister and reenacting moments from these movies which took us out of the rotten circumstances we couldn't control. Many times K------- and I would try to give away our nephew T----- to the Goblin King. We knew we would rescue T----- and then take over the Kingdom and be somewhere that wasn't the reality of poverty.

I realize as I write this a bit of my childhood, which I protected and cherished, is now gone. David Bowie, I am forever grateful for you and your vision, along with Jim Henson's, and Jennifer Connolly for her perfect portrayal of an imperfect heroine. RIP Goblin King.

The Joys of Anal: Anal Hang-ups

So I wrote a book about how to have anal sex. I self published it on Amazon Kindle.
But some of you already know that. I want to write about why I wrote it.

For me anal sex was an elusive, dirty sex act until I had it and when I finally did have it, it was just a dirty, painful act that seemed overrated, especially when watching PORN.  See no one educates you on how to have anal sex and Porn makes it seem easy (though I imagine Porn makes most sex seem effortless and easy). And there are guides out there that do tell you some tips but no one got real about it particularly when it comes to the taboos of anal sex, such as shit. For one you have to get over your own shit to have anal sex. Both figuratively and literally.

Growing up some of my hang ups (taboos) surrounding anal sex was: it was pervy, 'faggots' only had it, you could get an STD or HIV/AIDS, shit was in there, and it was painful so if you enjoyed it you were a masochist.

My thing was shit was in there and it was painful. Porn though seemed to make the shit component non-existent. ( I would assume the audience for 'Scat' is a niche market at best.) And pain seemed to be a prelude to extreme pleasure. It really wasn't until I began to explore and think about and study anal sex and what made it pleasurable for me ( and sometimes it was the best pleasure) that I decided to write a book about it. So I did.

This book is not just for young or inexperienced gay male bottoms. It is for anyone willing to get fucked from behind. I am very raunchy in the book and very graphic with words, so it is not for everyone but I did try to be very practical.

Hope you enjoy.
Oh and click the link, you deserve it.

http://www.amazon.com/Joys-Anal-Tongue-Cheek-Primer-ebook/dp/B0195YYT6M/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1450131791&sr=1-1&keywords=gaye+lauren

The Best Sex Ever

Am going to blog more often again. Especially since I have The Joys Anal to promote.

I have a question: Can the best sex ever be with the one you love?